Individuality comes from what we make our self's. Weather we let other peoples contradictions effect us or if we but a block wall between others and us. "Only we feel our pains, our pleasures, our hopes, and our fears immediately, subjectively, from the inside" Someone can come up to use and ask us what's wrong. They can say "oh i know exactly how you feel" Truth is no one really knows how we feel. They might feel the connection in the situation but never the same exact feeling. After reading that quote i understood the point David Banach was trying to make. What makes us individuals or gives us our individuality is the feelings we have... every one feels something different depending on the situation but never knows exactly what we are feeling at that moment.